“Once I also went to work instead of turning to kindergarten. I realized this at the next traffic light and turned around, but, yes, I was suspended for a few minutes, I “forgot” that I had a child in the back seat. The routine I had before the baby took over. It’s scary to think.” OUR Vangelis he is 40 years old and he is a new father. OUR news about the tragic incident in Arta he hit right in the heart. Where great fears nest. He put himself in that father’s place for a moment, but quickly dispelled that disgusting thought. “I don’t know how you can be distracted for so many hours, but I can confirm that in conditions of extreme fatigue and insomnia, the mind plays games. When I stayed up with my wife to rest for the first few months and then went to work, I constantly felt like I was walking a very thin line, that I was very close to crashing, always on the edge of my seat. If you like it parents you need to get back to work so fast that you don’t have time to create a driving memory with a baby and a car seat, which is a whole new routine. We leave the maternity ward with no preparation, no rehearsal. Who takes driving lessons with a child? You just put a label.”

“Mind Doesn’t Work”

OUR Sofiamother of a 4-year-old girl, recalls talking to “K” when returning from the hospital with the baby, they went to bathe her with her husband. “It was July, and the diesel fuel overheated, as a result of which the water poured out suddenly hot, and he got a burn on his leg. We were both sleepless, tired and worried about how we were going to do it, and we didn’t even think about it when we turned on the faucet.” The sign is nowhere to be seen today, but none of them will ever forget it. On the first painful day after the hospital, hundreds of others follow. OUR Joanna, the mother of a 3-year-old boy, can’t remember how many times she didn’t turn on the stove. “I burned two pans. My mind, with so many responsibilities inside and outside the house, doesn’t function well. I’m just lucky he never touched the baby.” “I forgot to tie him to the stroller, or rather, I was bored to tell the truth, so the wheel came off the sidewalk and the child was thrown onto the moving road. I lost ten years of my life,” says O. George.

“Our friends panicked when a child was stung by a sphinx on the beach and left, leaving the child at home” – “Mom forgot me in the supermarket cart.”

But how can you forget your child? “Our friends panicked when a child was bitten by a sphinx on the beach and they left leaving the child at home! Luckily, the other bathers understood and took care of it until the parents returned,” says O. Lefteris. “The mother-in-law put the child in the car, drove off and left without closing the door,” says Natalie. “My mom forgot me in the supermarket cart,” she admits. Zoe. “The cashier caught up with her.” “I went out with the child for a walk and after 10 minutes I saw that I was not wearing his shoes. However, what happened in Arta would hardly have happened to the mother,” says The rescue. “And that’s because we make a schedule of things to do every day. To a large extent, dads follow orders. They themselves do not mean some things, so it is easier for them to get around them. It’s not that they don’t care, it’s just that they don’t have a primary responsibility.”

Do parents really have to leave the maternity hospital with “instructions for use”? In accordance with Meropi Michaleli, psychoanalyst and founder of Coitidas, an organization dedicated to perinatal counseling, at the heart of the problem is that in today’s reality, survival needs outweigh human relationships. “Daily life and its demands have turned the life of parents into a robotic, mechanistic life, where all relationships in which feelings, responsibilities and obligations arise are erased and excluded.” Even relationships with children. “It’s not their fault, but a lot of parents today seem to treat their kids like a subject, something they might even forget about in the back seat. They cannot adjust to the reality of the infant, who, as we know today, is a complete subject in need of companionship and satisfaction of his needs. The child exists before birth because of the thought and desire of the couple who desired him and gave him a place to welcome him into their lives. It makes you wonder why we have reached the point where we cannot have a child on our minds despite the adverse circumstances we live in, fatigue And insomnia. However, life has become mechanistic, obligations outweigh relationships that require emotion, responsibility, and adjustment.”

Events like those in Arta also highlight the big flaws associated with parental support, the “forgotten child syndrome” or perhaps the “forgotten caregiver”? Photini Tsalikoglu, professor of psychology at Panteion University, wrote about this on Facebook. “This highlights the need to build community primary health care structures and support parents in such a crucial parental role that is currently not self-evident in how it will be played,” concludes Ms Michaleli.