It’s summer 2014, I’m back with Folk You, with Vama Veche, where I was alone. In addition to the hastily made luggage, I carry with me a difficult decision, made after a long struggle. I have to divorce.

Divorce seems like a no-brainer when you don’t have kids. This is essentially a type of separation that involves a little more paperwork. It seems I don’t know how it really is because I have a child. The option you don’t have always seems easier, and the options you have – all of them – seem extremely complicated. But, come to think of it, I don’t think there is any simple divorce – with or without divorce. Otherwise, why didn’t I take this step before I got married, before I had a child, before I clipped my wings myself? Because I did everything the other way around. I failed.

How did we get here?

When you decide to break up, everyone asks why. how did you get here Before answering this question, it is worth clarifying how you got married. Was everything good before, but over time it got worse? Or did you never feel like the relationship was what you wanted? Did you miss something? It probably is, and there’s probably something missing in any relationship. But it is very important what you lack and how you feel this lack.

I admit, I was wrong when I got married, not when I got divorced. I had a lot of hints that I didn’t feel the way I should have, that I wasn’t there with an open heart and that it would be good and right to end the relationship before I complicated it, but I didn’t. There was not enough strength for it until the moment when the discomfort became unbearable.

READ MORE ON SMARTLIVING.RO