In 2016, the Japan Today newspaper published an article titled “More Girls Are Turning to Candy to Win and Dine,” and the author claimed that the mother sugar daddy (or papakatsuin Japanese), this is a different reality than the public’s perception, and that in reality these rich gentlemen who take young girls out on the town and compensate them for their time with attention (mostly meaning money) “don’t get any sugar”.

Now, I don’t want to get into a polemic, but I feel the need to contradict him. Perhaps in the seven years that have passed since the article was written, something has changed, but in the meantime, perhaps Japanese women have agreed: without a little sugar, men will not be attracted, they will be bored and look for something else.

We all know that prostitution is the oldest profession in the world, dating back to Sumerian times, and it should come as no surprise to anyone, but the term enjo kōhim it sent chills down my spine, and in the last year it began to worry me more than before. Maybe it’s also because my daughters are now teenagers and because I can’t see anything other than what it means to be a mother papakatsu in Japan

Enjoy yourselfhim literally means “paid dating” (or, more aggressively, “teenage prostitution”) and refers strictly to middle and high school girls who receive money or gifts from men—usually second in age—in exchange for hours. spent together How this time is spent, we can only imagine.

Anthropologist Laura Miller claims in her research that most acquaintances enjo kōhim consists of groups of girls who accompany groups of men in karaoke and get paid for their time. Moreover, in the survey of 1998, conducted Asian Women’s Foundationit was found that only 10% of high school girls are engaged enjo kōhim, and 90% said they felt uncomfortable. A 1997 TV Asahi poll found that 70% of respondents opposed the system enjo kōsai sexual interactions, while 30% approved of it. Unfortunately, there are no recent studies, which makes me doubt that the above is still relevant.

There is still a difference between papakatsu, enjo kōhim and sugar daddy? What percentage of these dates end in a hotel room? And how can all this not be considered as a disguised form of prostitution?

Prostitution was outlawed in Japan in 1956, and Japanese law defines it as “sexual intercourse with an unknown person in exchange for payment.” Because of this, most services fūzoku (sex trade) specifically offers other, non-coital options. To comply with the new laws, Japan’s sex industry has expanded in many forms, from massage parlors to oral sex bars. But I would like to talk about the types of sexuality in Japan in detail in another article.

To understand what it means to be sugar baby in Japan and how convincing the information found on the internet is, I decided to find some answers myself and created an account on the first site I found on the internet, sugardaddy.jp. It didn’t take more than ten minutes to start getting likes and messages. Some of them are very direct, it was clear to me that these gentlemen do not want to waste time.

61-year-old Genki looks like this: a beautiful girl with beautiful teeth, height above 160 cm, C cup, waist 63 cm or less, hips more than 85 cm. He writes to me: “Your picture is wonderful. I would like to meet, how about going out? Location is Shinjuku Keio Plaza Hotel, Saturday at 11. I also want to find a young woman to support financially but have an intimate relationship with, what do you say?

Naoki-san, 42, says he wants a woman with whom he can have a long-term relationship. He likes hot springs and travel. He writes to me: “Nice to meet you, I a game maker in Tokyo and I would like to see you. I want a sexual relationship from the beginning, for a long period of time. If possible, I would like to meet on weekdays in Shibuya. I can pay ¥15,000 (€100) each time, what do you think?”

Others, after the first written lines, asked me what my conditions were. When I asked what it was about, saying I was new to the site, I was told simply, “I’m looking for sex, not a girl to hang out with.” How much?”. A single man, 67 years old, invited me to coffee for ¥5,000 (€34). Read the full article and comment on Contributors.ro