bad lie no one likes to be evil somewhere. The modern lifestyle is built around the idea of ​​it pursuit of success. The attitude that most people display not only in areas of their lives such as business or other pursuits that really excite them or feed them personal ambitions, but even in activities or things they do for hobbies and personal enjoyment.

Generally speaking, we are bad at being bad. However, we have not always been so hard on ourselves. A recent survey of 41,000 students found that levels social perfectionism, that is, this feeling that you have to prove that you are impeccable, was by a third in 2016 compared to 1989.

Indeed, over time n competitiveness in professional and academic matters increased, as noted Thomas Keran, who is behind the above study and is Professor of Psychology and Behavioral Sciences at the London School of Economics and Political Science.

Most modern people spend most of their day in social media, a digital space that contributes to a very large extent to the (fictional) perfection pictures, along with products that try to cover our “shortcomings”. Something that comes to heighten the stress of success in our lives.

As for them parents, very often they transfer this stress to their children: foreign languages, sports, dances, music are added to the daily life of children and they have to react to all this. Parents, at the same time, put additional pressure on them, fearing that they will not find themselves in a low socio-economic position.

But, “it’s such a relief not to have to be nice” she admits Karen Rinaldi, who works in a publishing house and loves to surf in her free time, although she’s not very good at it. It is important for her to get into the water, to feel every wave, but also the satisfaction, which she does not need if she is an expert in this.

But even in the professional sphere they exist in many cases. solutions so that we are not burdened with things we are not very good at. OUR Elliot Pepper who has been running his own business for two years, realized that he could not cope with some procedural issues. Although at first this confession made him feel like a total failure, he eventually solved the problem with a professional partner who knew all the details that he was not.

In addition, there is another factor that we usually do not take into account. “Whining” about how badly we’re doing with a new hobby we’ve started, like cycling. we insult all those people who spent years getting good at something, following a linear improvement process.

After all, no one knows what a new hobby can lead to. OUR Zachary Book, however, having watched BMX racing since his teenage years, he felt drawn to the universe. But he soon realized that professionally in this field he would not succeed.

“I knew it wouldn’t make me happy,” he admits. Today, at 39, he health consultant and ride for pleasure. That’s when he feels like a child.

Rather, he found meaning: “The benefit of not pushing myself every day is that I drive when I want to.”

According to the Wall Street Journal.